I listen for a living.
It can be exhausting; it can be enlightening; it can be encouraging. Sometimes it is just frustrating.
The last few months, having spoken with men of many ages in various stages of life, there has been a common annoying thread: sex talk. Bad sex talk at that. What do I mean?
To quote the Twilight Zone's Rod Serling, "Imagine if you will..." a man talking about his dating relationship or his marriage. He wants to see things get better, and he wants something rich and meaningful in his partnership. When the subject comes to sex, I'm no prude- yet when this same man starts using vulgar slang for sexual activities or body parts, I've got to wonder what he is thinking. From those in their 20s to those in their 60s, men of various ages, professions, and status, seem to go from gentlemen to voracious readers of porn based on the way they talk.
Particularly, if he is not getting the kind of action he wants in bed.
I've got to wonder if he talks to his woman in the same manner. No self-respecting woman I know would put up with it- or perform it- when sex is presented like that. For that matter, why degrade the very beautiful thing designed by God for our pleasure?
Time for us men to grow up. It's time to use our words to build each other up, to encourage each other, and to put our spouses preference before our own. That is what love is. I bet if we would really love each other, love each other sacrificially, there would be more than enough of all the sex we want.